Conflict & Anger in Relationships | EFT Couples Therapy in Sedona

The Pain of Conflict & Anger in Relationships

You didn’t sign up for constant tension, explosive arguments, or the silent treatment that follows. Maybe one of you shuts down. Maybe the other comes in hot, desperate to be heard. Either way, the result is the same: disconnection, hurt, and emotional exhaustion.

You might be thinking:

“We fight about the smallest things.”
“I never feel like I can say the right thing.”
“When we argue, it feels like we’re on opposite teams.”

Conflict isn’t the problem—it’s what’s underneath it that matters. Often, anger is a protest for love. It says, “I’m hurting and I need you to see me,” but it rarely lands that way. Instead, it drives your partner further away and leaves you both stuck in a painful cycle.

You Don't Have To Keep Fighting This Way

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy helps you slow things down and get to the heart of the conflict—without blame, shutdowns, or walking on eggshells.

Instead of rehashing who said what, EFT helps you tune into why these patterns keep repeating and what you’re really trying to say. The goal isn’t to win the argument—it’s to understand each other better and feel safe again in your relationship.

Whether you’re dealing with explosive fights or a quiet wall of withdrawal, EFT offers a structured path toward communication that brings you closer, not further apart.

How Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Helps

EFT is a powerful, evidence-based approach to healing conflict and restoring emotional safety in relationships. Here’s how it helps:

Reveals the Pattern Beneath the Fights

EFT shifts the focus away from blame and shows how your negative cycle keeps you stuck.

Gets to the Root of Anger

Beneath frustration and shutdowns are vulnerable emotions—fear, sadness, longing—that EFT gently helps uncover.

Makes Space for Connection

With your therapist’s support, you’ll learn how to share your feelings in ways your partner can actually hear and respond to.

You don’t have to keep living in fight-or-flight mode. EFT helps couples transform anger into understanding, and conflict into connection.

BOOK WITH CAROL

Carol was very helpful, understanding and responsive. She went out of her way on so many occasions to help us through very difficult times and showed a true caring for both of us and our marriage. Carol was always available to help and was able to arrange her schedule for emergencies if we needed extra help. Through her caring and understanding ways she was able to build our trust and i can never thank her enough for what she has done to help us. I would highly recommend Carol.