Maybe you're waiting for the question to be 'popped' or you're engaged and the wedding planning is underway, but something just feels 'off'. At times there's arguing and other times it is tense and quiet. You have started to notice how different you both are as well as each of your families, making distance between you even greater. You recall when the connection and love was so strong but you push these worries aside hoping things will get better. The negative patterns between the two of you continues to grow as does the disconnection.
This is supposed to be one of the best times of a relationship, and while you love each other, it just doesn't feel the same. Sadly, most couples choose to seek help, on average, six years later than when they realize they have problems. Premarital therapy may not only bring about a deeper more lasting connection with one another in the present, but it may also stave off future hardships in the marriage to come. Ultimately, couples therapy can help a couple weather the turbulent storms of life that bring about events such as depression, losses, transitions involving the birth of a child, new job assignments, relocation, traumatic events, death and dying, anxiety provoking experiences, or whatever life may toss at them.
If yours is a new or recent relationship and you struggle with understanding each other more fully or feel as if something is missing, emotionally or physically, rather than ignoring all those unsettled questions and hoping things will turn around, it may best to seek help now, rather than waiting for a crisis to make things worse. Let EFT by CHC help you take the necessary steps to more fully understand your relationship with your partner by reaching out for premarital couple counseling with someone trained and experienced to help you move forward.Carol Corcoran, LCMFT, LMFT, is a Certified EFT Therapist with 25 years experience and she can provide the help you need in the form of Emotionally Focused Therapy, one of the most effective and evidenced based researched forms of couples therapy available.